“What if you wake up some day and you’re 65, or 75, and you never got your memoir or novel written; or you didn’t go swimming in warm pools and oceans all those years because your thighs were jiggly and you had a nice big comfortable tummy; or you were just so strung out on perfectionism and people-pleasing that you forgot to have a big juicy creative life, of imagination and radical silliness and staring off into space like when you were a kid?
It’s going to break your heart. Don’t let this happen. Repent just means to change direction — and NOT to be said by someone who is waggling their forefinger at you. Repentance is a blessing.
Pick a new direction, one you wouldn’t mind ending up at, and aim for that. Shoot the moon.” – Anne Lamott
Career bliss – the intersection of what you do well, what you love, what the world will pay for & what the world needs.
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“You can only become truly accomplished at something you love. Don’t make money your goal. Instead pursue the things you love doing and then do them so well that people can’t take their eyes off of you.”
Maya Angelou speaks such wisdom here. Pursuing the things you love doing.
I have noticed with many clients that they spend so much time pleasing everyone else that they almost don’t know what they love doing. They have lost touch with themselves. That is why our first discovery session is so important – time to explore what really matters to them. This is foundational for all the work we then do, be it career-focused or life-focused.
Over to you
What are you pursuing? What are your thoughts on this? Leave your thoughts below.
My client wrote this beautiful piece after an epiphany and has kindly agreed I can share it with you.
I reject the pressure to succeed in any conventional way, I reject the arrogance that says I must stand out from the crowd, I reject the doctrine that I must wear make up, dress well, stay young, slim and beautiful. I reject the assertion that I should be happy. I reject Facebook. I reject my own pressures to be a good worker, student, friend, lover, daughter, hostess, person.Continue reading →
Burned out? Under pressure? Charlie Hoehn felt the same.
“This pressure I felt to make it was such a burden–until I realized that no level of success was ever going to be enough. I would always be chasing the world outside of me. What was the point of working so hard if it wasn’t for my own happiness? The solution became very clear: stop doing work that doesn’t matter to you.”
When I tackle work with a sense of play
Charlie Hoehn realised that many of his work heroes tackled work with a sense of play.
“When I tackle work with a sense of play, my creativity and optimism soar. I fall in love with the process. My energy becomes contagious, and I’m able to create unique art with the people around me.” Continue reading →
Today I worked with a client who was scared. She was scared to admit what she wanted to do next with her life.
She and I had been working through the Firework career coaching process I use. She was comfortable at the early stages, identifying strengths, thinking about interests and skills. And then, as we were narrowing down ideas, designing career spectrums, she got stuck. This beautiful, creative woman was unable to think, her mind went blank. She was so scared of taking the next step her mind had seized up.
It made sense. It was a big moment. We used a tool for lifting fear that I have been sharing with clients, a simple breathing tool that is gentle yet effective. This released her to think creatively again.
I posted this article back in 2008. At that time, there was great uncertainty about the economic climate. Not much has changed. I think maybe we have got used to uncertainty. The gap between the haves and the have-nots seems to have increased. Those who are working often feel they ‘should’ be grateful, they ‘should’ be happy. Yet they often are not happy.
Companies have cut the workforce so fewer employees are doing more work. And expected not to grumble. With less time with children, more ready meals, less time enjoying friends, more stress-related illness – many are asking is this job worth it?
Are you happy in your job?
I’m reposting this article for those who are asking if they are happy in their job. For those who already know the answer is “No”, fill in the form to contact me and let’s chat about working out what would really float your boat. Continue reading →
I’ve had a few knock backs recently and am surprised how easy it is to slip down into self doubt. I was going along well, involved in some workshops for job clubs that I’m really excited about then BAM!
It can feel like it just came out of the blue. And then if I think a little and look back I can usually see a familiar pattern. Over committing, eating badly, not enough sleep and then something relatively minor can have a devastating effect.
Do you remember that Grange Hill song? Maybe not, maybe before your time!
The older I get the more important I think this is. Just say “No!” Saying No to the things (and people) that drain you, to the requests that burden you, to the emotional blackmail from your mother. (Just to clarify, not talking about my mother here).
Learning to say “No” is crucial for looking after yourself. And learning to say “No” is crucial for building self confidence. Failing to say “No” can damage your health, your marriage, your relationships, your career.
This is a light hearted look at 25 badass ways to say No from justinemusk.com (you might need to zoom to read them more closely).
‘Do you treat yourself as well as you treat your friends and family?
That simple question is the basis for a burgeoning new area of psychological research called self-compassion — how kindly people view themselves. People who find it easy to be supportive and understanding to others, it turns out, often score surprisingly low on self-compassion tests, berating themselves for perceived failures like being overweight or not exercising.’