“You can only become truly accomplished at something you love. Don’t make money your goal. Instead pursue the things you love doing and then do them so well that people can’t take their eyes off of you.”
Maya Angelou speaks such wisdom here. Pursuing the things you love doing.
I have noticed with many clients that they spend so much time pleasing everyone else that they almost don’t know what they love doing. They have lost touch with themselves. That is why our first discovery session is so important – time to explore what really matters to them. This is foundational for all the work we then do, be it career-focused or life-focused.
Over to you
What are you pursuing? What are your thoughts on this? Leave your thoughts below.
I’ve just read the advice Mike Rowe (Discovery Channel) gave to someone who wanted a career that would always keep him happy. And change and excitement and steady pay.
Mike told him:
‘Stop looking for the “right” career, and start looking for a job. Any job. Forget about what you like. Focus on what’s available. Get yourself hired. Show up early. Stay late. Volunteer for the scut work. Become indispensable. You can always quit later, and be no worse off than you are today. But don’t waste another year looking for a career that doesn’t exist. And most of all, stop worrying about your happiness. Happiness does not come from a job. It comes from knowing what you truly value, and behaving in a way that’s consistent with those beliefs.
Many people today resent the suggestion that they’re in charge of the way the feel. But trust me, Parker. Those people are mistaken. What you do, who you’re with, and how you feel about the world around you, is completely up to you.’
My client wrote this beautiful piece after an epiphany and has kindly agreed I can share it with you.
I reject the pressure to succeed in any conventional way, I reject the arrogance that says I must stand out from the crowd, I reject the doctrine that I must wear make up, dress well, stay young, slim and beautiful. I reject the assertion that I should be happy. I reject Facebook. I reject my own pressures to be a good worker, student, friend, lover, daughter, hostess, person.Continue reading →
Burned out? Under pressure? Charlie Hoehn felt the same.
“This pressure I felt to make it was such a burden–until I realized that no level of success was ever going to be enough. I would always be chasing the world outside of me. What was the point of working so hard if it wasn’t for my own happiness? The solution became very clear: stop doing work that doesn’t matter to you.”
When I tackle work with a sense of play
Charlie Hoehn realised that many of his work heroes tackled work with a sense of play.
“When I tackle work with a sense of play, my creativity and optimism soar. I fall in love with the process. My energy becomes contagious, and I’m able to create unique art with the people around me.” Continue reading →
Today I worked with a client who was scared. She was scared to admit what she wanted to do next with her life.
She and I had been working through the Firework career coaching process I use. She was comfortable at the early stages, identifying strengths, thinking about interests and skills. And then, as we were narrowing down ideas, designing career spectrums, she got stuck. This beautiful, creative woman was unable to think, her mind went blank. She was so scared of taking the next step her mind had seized up.
It made sense. It was a big moment. We used a tool for lifting fear that I have been sharing with clients, a simple breathing tool that is gentle yet effective. This released her to think creatively again.
I posted this article back in 2008. At that time, there was great uncertainty about the economic climate. Not much has changed. I think maybe we have got used to uncertainty. The gap between the haves and the have-nots seems to have increased. Those who are working often feel they ‘should’ be grateful, they ‘should’ be happy. Yet they often are not happy.
Companies have cut the workforce so fewer employees are doing more work. And expected not to grumble. With less time with children, more ready meals, less time enjoying friends, more stress-related illness – many are asking is this job worth it?
Are you happy in your job?
I’m reposting this article for those who are asking if they are happy in their job. For those who already know the answer is “No”, fill in the form to contact me and let’s chat about working out what would really float your boat. Continue reading →
I have been chatting to Red magazine about strengths or positive qualities. And how concentrating on our strengths increases self confidence.
Often schools and job appraisals focus on our weakest areas and where we need to improve, not on our strongest areas. Yet it’s often true that we would need to put in a significant effort to raise a weakness to a mediocre level. Whereas putting in the same effort to an area of strength can raise a strength to an expertise. Continue reading →
I’ve been inspired to offer something to fund raise for a 18 year old girl Danielle and her gap year volunteering. I am offering coaching sessions to those who make a charitable donation to Danielle’s fundraising for her trip to Chile. Continue reading →
Twenty years from now you will be more disappointed by the things that you didn’t do than by the ones you did do. So throw off the bowlines. Sail away from the safe harbor. Catch the trade winds in your sails. Explore. Dream. Discover.
Secure jobs have been rendered shaky and insubstantial by the uncertainty of the current economic climate. Where once you might have thought that security was a fair exchange for a sense of dissatisfaction, that often no longer applies. Many are questioning whether they want to stay put if there is no longer security. This could be an opportunity to think afresh.