‘We don’t see things as they are;
we see things as we are.’
~ Anais Nin
Wow, what a powerful quotation. If we want to change something, or change the way we see something, we need to change ourselves.
Pick a situation that is challenging you right now. Don’t go for the biggest one just yet, perhaps a smaller challenge.
Secondly, imagine you are someone else. Perhaps a wise old woman, or a young rebel or a civil rights campaigner. Take a few minutes to imagine what it would be like to live as this person.
Thirdly, look at the challenge through that other person’s eyes. What do you notice? What becomes possible from this point of view? How does this affect your self confidence?What action do you want to take?
Let me know your thoughts on this below. Whose perspective will you choose?
Earlier this year, a friend and I agreed to apply to run a 10K race, partly to motivate ourselves to get out and run. I’ve run a 5K event before and wanted to stretch myself a bit more. My friend applied for an early April race which I felt didn’t give me enough training time to be sure of running the whole distance. I wanted longer to train so started to look at May races. In fact I did not apply for a May race and I have only just started to train.
If I had turned up for the April event, I would have been training since February. I would now be fitter. I might not have run the whole 10K run in April, maybe I would have walked some of the route. Yet, given that my goal is to get fit, or fitter, rather than have an impressive time for the event, that wouldn’t have mattered.
I don’t think of myself as perfectionist, yet my desire to make a ‘proper’ go of the event got in the way of my real goal – to get fit. Continue reading
I’ve come across this handy little tool for looking at a problem another way. It’s an online wizard (!) with a tool for asking questions, the Unsticker. Sample question (I love this) – what part of the problem is the most ticklish? Continue reading
Today’s subject has been particularly relevant to me recently. I have been involved in a couple of situations with people who are in conflict. Not comfortable. I have found myself getting dragged down by the conflict, but also ‘stuck’ in a way of thinking which is limiting.
For example, if my perspective on someone, lets say Miss T, is that she is a bully or that Mr F is lazy, I will be looking out for behaviour that justifies my perspective. It is not ‘fact’ that Miss T is a bully. It is not ‘fact’ that Mr F is lazy. The reality is that I have interpreted their words or behaviour in that way. I become unable to see the times that Miss T is gentle with others or Mr F works hard. It becomes a self-fulfilling prophecy. Continue reading