Category Archives: Life coaching exercise

1 question to change your 2016

What do you want the “theme” of your life to be in the next year – one word?

Early each year I take time to look back over the previous year and looking ahead. I do the same process with coaching clients. We take some time to celebrate their gains and note the disappointments. Having reviewed we look ahead at the year to come. What do they long to see happen this year?

This is quite a long thorough process that generally takes 45 minutes or so. So, I’ve condensed it. Below is a 5 question version and a 1 question version!

I want to share with you 5 questions to help you make this review too. I recommend that you do this with someone else, a partner, friend or coach. Let them ask the questions and allow you to concentrate on the answers.

5 question version:

  1. As you think back over the last 12 months, where have you strengthened your footing or gained new ground?
  2. As you look back over the past year, where have you failed to advance, or even lost ground?
  3. What’s the deep truth about your life as it is today?  
  4. What do you want the “theme” of your life to be in the next year? One word?
  5. What are the things you must do or be in the next 12 months to move your life forward in the direction of your deepest heart desires?

Often we find as we review our goals that things have just happened, that progress has been made without conscious thought or action.

And if I was to chose just one question it would be no. 4. So here is the 1 question version.

1 question: 

What do you want the “theme” of your life to be in 2016 – one word?

Let me know in the comments below what word you chose.

focus on your strengths

Concentrate on your strengths, not your weaknesses

focus on your strengthsI have been chatting to Red magazine about strengths or positive qualities. And how concentrating on our strengths increases self confidence.

Often schools and job appraisals focus on our weakest areas and where we need to improve, not on our strongest areas. Yet it’s often true that we would need to put in a significant effort to raise a weakness to a mediocre level. Whereas putting in the same effort to an area of strength can raise a strength to an expertise. Continue reading

To achieve or not to achieve?

To achieve or not to achieve, that is the question.

I recently received a newsletter from my therapist friend Bonnie Miller, with article ‘The Happiness of Non-Achievement’. Now, if you were my client you’d know I encourage celebrating achievements. Writing a list of them even. A long list. Keeping it. Referring back to it.

And here is Bonnie celebrating non-achievement. Continue reading

Discover your goals quiz

Discover your Top 3 Goals

Take the free 5 minute ‘Discover Your Goals’ quiz and get your customised Goals Report here:
http://www.FreeGoalsReport.com/quiz

Use this to establish your priorities for the next six months. The quiz is short and helpful.

ACTION CHALLENGE: Download the quiz and get thinking about your goals.

We don’t see things as they are; we see things as we are.

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‘We don’t see things as they are;
we see things as we are.’

~ Anais Nin

Wow, what a powerful quotation. If we want to change something, or change the way we see something, we need to change ourselves.

ACTION CHALLENGE:

Pick a situation that is challenging you right now. Don’t go for the biggest one just yet, perhaps a smaller challenge.

Secondly, imagine you are someone else. Perhaps a wise old woman, or a young rebel or a civil rights campaigner. Take a few minutes to imagine what it would be like to live as this person.

Thirdly, look at the challenge through that other person’s eyes. What do you notice? What becomes possible from this point of view? How does this affect your self confidence?What action do you want to take?

Let me know your thoughts on this below. Whose perspective will you choose?

Does perfectionism get in the way of getting things done?

Earlier this year, a friend and I agreed to apply to run a 10K race, partly to motivate ourselves to get out and run. I’ve run a 5K event before and wanted to stretch myself a bit more. My friend applied for an early April race which I felt didn’t give me enough training time to be sure of running the whole distance. I wanted longer to train so started to look at May races. In fact I did not apply for a May race and I have only just started to train.

988576_90886406-runningIf I had turned up for the April event, I would have been training since February. I would now be fitter. I might not have run the whole 10K run in April, maybe I would have walked some of the route. Yet, given that my goal is to get fit, or fitter, rather than have an impressive time for the event, that wouldn’t have mattered.

I don’t think of myself as perfectionist, yet my desire to make a ‘proper’ go of the event got in the way of my real goal – to get fit. Continue reading

What are you tolerating?

What are you tolerating?

We are used to the notion of putting up with things. “How are you?” “Can’t complain” “Mustn’t grumble” “Could be worse”

And as a (British) race I sometimes wonder if we like to have something to moan about.

Tolerations can drain so much energy that we haven’t enough left over for the things we really like to do. Like a couple of very small stones constantly in a shoe, or the feeling of being slightly spiked by a cactus.

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“This life is more than just a read through”

I spent three and a half months in South America in 2003. I travelled south from Rio to the tip of Argentina at Ushuaia, then back up the other side through Bolivia and Peru to Quito in Ecuador.
this life is more than just a read through Rosalyn Clare life coach
One of the best quarter years of my life. We saw glaciers, icebergs, rainforest, beach, waterfalls, fjords, tropical parrots, llamas and Incan ruins. Ate guinea pig and drank mojitos.

And one of the songs I heard repeatedly over that time had the above line.

“This life is more than just a read through” – quote from Red Hot Chilli Peppers. Continue reading

‘If I was not afraid, I would…’

No fearIf you were not afraid of anything or anyone, what would you do? Who would you be? What would you say? How would you live? Where would you live? How would you dress?

‘If I was not afraid, I would…’

One life coaching exercise I have found dramatically effective is to answer the above. Daily. For a week or two. And notice what items come up again and again. Little things and big things.

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Self-care: 7 new habits

life and career coach BirminghamI’m now over a year into the process of being and becoming an entrepreneur with my own practice. It’s been an interesting time. I expected running my own business to give me extra flexibility and control. I didn’t expect the process to be an opportunity for so much personal growth and challenge. Continue reading