Back in June, I published my six month goals (My goals ) .
Somewhat foolhardy maybe. Continue reading
Update on my goals
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Author Archives: Rosalyn
Putting pressure on myself
Why do I put pressure on myself?
Why do you put pressure on yourself? Continue reading
Women’s workshop in Birmingham on 11.9.07
I’m leading a workshop in Birmingham on work-life balance. How to stop work taking over and find some control. Discover how you want to live, not how your colleagues or anyone tells you how to live.
See link to flyer: women’s workshop on work-life balance
What are you putting off?
I am having a nightmare situation with a tooth. In order to avoid a large bill for root canal treatment, I changed dentist to attempt to get the work covered on the NHS. This then involved a referral to the dental hospital which got lost and then an appointment at the hospital with a promise of treatment which never transpired and… it’s been a catalogue of disasters. In the background I have failed to chase up the different dentists, secretly pleased to be postponing what I knew would be a lengthy and painful treatment. The net result is that I may have left it too late and might need to have the tooth removed. Quick and cheap, but affecting the way I chew for the rest of my life. Ouch!
Sometimes I get caught up in the urgent and leave the important. Continue reading
Poetry escapes
I would like to share a favourite poem:
This Is Just to Say
by William Carlos Williams
I have eaten
the plums
that were in
the icebox
and which
you were probably
saving
for breakfast
Forgive me
they were delicious
so sweet
and so cold Continue reading
Letting go of responsibility for others
Do you feel responsible for another adult’s health or wellbeing? Do you want to see them change? Continue reading
Serenity – and the things we cannot change
Those of you reading this in the UK know that we have had more rain this summer than the last 150 years. Or is it since records began? A long time anyway!
Friends have talked of frustration or even anger at the ‘bad’ weather. They haven’t been able to plan outdoor activities and go for walks or cycles without the risk of getting wet. They haven’t seen a lot of sun.
My response to the weather this year has been to be intrigued. It has been very, very wet. And there has been very little sun. And I find myself wondering what next – could there be snow even? Without meaning to, I have adopted a Zen-like acceptance towards British weather this summer. Or, to switch religions, ‘everything works together for good’. 
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Trying a new way of living
I am someone who plans. I like to know what my social arrangements are for the next week or three. I like to book up to see plays at the theatre months in advance. I like to have lunch plans, brunch plans, going to see friends plans. I even like to plan when I am going to relax. I like to have a full diary.
Over the last few weeks, I’ve been experimenting with a new way of living – not planning. Continue reading
Working hard at relaxation…
I am writing this slightly under the influence of too much red wine in a local pub which looks a little like a Parisian boudoir…a boudoir with a specialty in Belgian beers and an abundance of sausage and mash. Can there be too many varieties of sausage and mash offered? And the obligatory very expensive crisps which are regrettably very good as well as very expensive so I can’t say I prefer Walkers as I don’t. Although I did refuse a leaving pub bag of chips (see previous post regarding desire to lose weight – doing well so far and don’t want an inebriated desire for carbohydrates to jeopardise days of good work).
So. Relaxation. It sounds a bit of a contradiction, but sometimes I think we need to work at it. Sometimes just lying on the couch and watching Big Brother (resisted it so far this summer) doesn’t cut it. We can retire to bed as stressed as when we first got in from work. Continue reading
Setting goals
My coach has challenged me to set goals and publish here big goals for the next six months. Not just write them in my diary. Or, to rephrase – who do I want to be in six months time. How I wanted to develop as a person by Christmas. Who I wanted to grow into being.
So, here goes, Chris (www.coachchris.com) –
- I want to be more courageous. The biggest goal I can set myself here is to conquer my fear of heights and do something that proves it. This ought to be scary, but I’m actually feeling excited about this. It would mean I could see Everest – wow! Continue reading
Let’s celebrate!
On Friday night, a friend and I shared a bottle of champagne (Veuve Clicquot – my favourite) and a picnic from Marks and Spencer and Aldi (also favourites). 
We were celebrating the fact that she was about to book a very exciting holiday and some good things that have happened in my business life. The bottle of champagne had been languishing at the bottom of my wine rack for far too long, waiting for a moment large enough to celebrate. When I discovered this friend was also a fan of this particular champagne we decided that we would make a plan to drink it whatever our circumstances, but as it turned out, we both had great things happen. Is that coincidental? Continue reading
Following passion
I am very excited about the fact that we can choose who we become. We cannot always choose our circumstances – we can choose how we respond to them.
I feel that as I am challenged by setting up my own business I am stretched, I am moving out of comfort zones, fearful and there is much that is difficult. I am waking up at 5 in the morning at the moment and could do with some more sleep! Yet I feel alive, excited, vibrant. Continue reading
Changing my perspective
Today’s subject has been particularly relevant to me recently. I have been involved in a couple of situations with people who are in conflict. Not comfortable. I have found myself getting dragged down by the conflict, but also ‘stuck’ in a way of thinking which is limiting.
For example, if my perspective on someone, lets say Miss T, is that she is a bully or that Mr F is lazy, I will be looking out for behaviour that justifies my perspective. It is not ‘fact’ that Miss T is a bully. It is not ‘fact’ that Mr F is lazy. The reality is that I have interpreted their words or behaviour in that way. I become unable to see the times that Miss T is gentle with others or Mr F works hard. It becomes a self-fulfilling prophecy. Continue reading
Logo
I have a new logo. Wahey! Not sure where to put it on this site yet, so I’m putting it here!
Bringing Cuba into my everyday life!
Coming back from Cuba has been like landing in some kind of parallel grey universe. Is the UK always this grim? Does anyone ever smile? Why did I ever take that flight home?
Or is it just that I miss the warmth and vibrancy of Cuba, the rainforest, lush green landscape and sandy beaches. Do I long for late nights of rum cocktails and salsa? Continue reading
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