In all the world, there is no one else exactly like me

Everything that comes out of me is authentically me

Because I alone chose it I own everything about me
My body, my feelings, my mouth, my voice, all my actions,
Whether they be to others or to myself – I own my fantasies,
My dreams, my hopes, my fears – I own all my triumphs and
Successes, all my failures and mistakes

Because I own all of me, I can become intimately acquainted with me – by so doing
I can love me and be friendly with me in all my parts – I know
There are aspects about myself that puzzle me, and other
Aspects that I do not know – but as long as I am
Friendly and loving to myself, I can courageously
And hopefully look for solutions to the puzzles
And for ways to find out more about me
However I look and sound, whatever I say and do, and whatever
I think and feel at a given moment in time is authentically
Me – If later some parts of how I looked, sounded, thought
And felt turn out to be unfitting, I can discard that which is
Unfitting, keep the rest, and invent something new for that
Which I discarded – I can see, hear, feel, think, say, and do

I have the tools to survive, to be close to others, to be
Productive to make sense and order out of the world of
People and things outside of me – I own me, and
therefore I can engineer me – I am me and


Poem by Virginia Satir

This is very profound. I wonder what would happen if we really absorbed the truths of this poem and let it change us.

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4 thoughts on “Virginia Satir on self esteem

  1. Dorothy L

    Hello…thank you for leaving a comment on justblogme.

    Your comment was very well stated.
    Being able to identify with ones negative thoughts is reachable only after one can break the habit or emotional rollercoaster that they are on which blinds them from that very thought.

    I fell that being able to simplify ones thoughts is similar to your thought of not judging them.
    The less made of most things the easier they are to cope with and/or overcome.

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