Those who spend all their time fighting and advocating for others often neglect themselves. Any kind of self care or self development can feel like self indulgence, an unnecessary luxury. Time for me less important than time for others.
“If I had six hours to chop down a tree, I’d spend the first four sharpening the saw”
This quote, wrongly attributed to Lincoln, is a reminder of how time spent sharpening the saw, sharpening the instrument, is invaluable in terms of getting things done. In much people related work our instrument is ourselves. Time spent on ourselves, on renewal, helps us to be more effective.
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My client wrote this beautiful piece after an epiphany and has kindly agreed I can share it with you.
I reject the pressure to succeed in any conventional way, I reject the arrogance that says I must stand out from the crowd, I reject the doctrine that I must wear make up, dress well, stay young, slim and beautiful. I reject the assertion that I should be happy. I reject Facebook. I reject my own pressures to be a good worker, student, friend, lover, daughter, hostess, person.Continue reading →
Today I worked with a client who was scared. She was scared to admit what she wanted to do next with her life.
She and I had been working through the Firework career coaching process I use. She was comfortable at the early stages, identifying strengths, thinking about interests and skills. And then, as we were narrowing down ideas, designing career spectrums, she got stuck. This beautiful, creative woman was unable to think, her mind went blank. She was so scared of taking the next step her mind had seized up.
It made sense. It was a big moment. We used a tool for lifting fear that I have been sharing with clients, a simple breathing tool that is gentle yet effective. This released her to think creatively again.
“What if you wake up some day and you’re 65, or 75, and you never got your memoir or novel written; or you didn’t go swimming in warm pools and oceans all those years because your thighs were jiggly and you had a nice big comfortable tummy; or you were just so strung out on perfectionism and people-pleasing that you forgot to have a big juicy creative life, of imagination and radical silliness and staring off into space like when you were a kid?
It’s going to break your heart. Don’t let this happen. Repent just means to change direction — and NOT to be said by someone who is waggling their forefinger at you. Repentance is a blessing.
Pick a new direction, one you wouldn’t mind ending up at, and aim for that. Shoot the moon.” – Anne Lamott
Career bliss – the intersection of what you do well, what you love, what the world will pay for & what the world needs.
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“You can only become truly accomplished at something you love. Don’t make money your goal. Instead pursue the things you love doing and then do them so well that people can’t take their eyes off of you.”
Maya Angelou speaks such wisdom here. Pursuing the things you love doing.
I have noticed with many clients that they spend so much time pleasing everyone else that they almost don’t know what they love doing. They have lost touch with themselves. That is why our first discovery session is so important – time to explore what really matters to them. This is foundational for all the work we then do, be it career-focused or life-focused.
Over to you
What are you pursuing? What are your thoughts on this? Leave your thoughts below.